Creative Space Online Counseling and Coaching

bmaulding@csocounseling.hush.com ~ 1 (224) 623-2251

We are an online provider who provides therapy services for individuals suffering from anxiety in the Chicagoland area, mid Illinois, and Southern Illinois. We provide coaching services, anger management, and a tailored anxiety program for individuals living in the United States and Internationally.

How to Manage Your Anxiety at Work

How to Manage Your Anxiety at Work

A work environment can be hard when you are struggling with panic attacks, and you are constantly counting down the time when you get to be free of the place. Did you know that 75% of people admit that stress affects their daily life? The anxiety that stress causes can affect daily life through relationships, work, and every aspect of your daily life. Workplace stress comes in a variety of different ways.

What is workplace stress?

Did you know that deadlines and dealing with workplace conflict are the biggest issues that people report dealing with at work? These are the two things that are most prevalent for workplace anxiety. Some people tend to act out by causing drama, which is an unhealthy way to deal with conflict. Others will avoid the situation altogether. Either way is not productive and often causes more anxiety.

In fact, when this happens, productivity tends to go down, gossiping occurs, meetings outside of the meeting happen. People will stop communicating with each other and start mentally listing problems that they will have with other people, and it can create toxic work environments for people.

When you are struggling with a toxic workplace, there are a couple of options that you can do. You can resign and find another job. You can stick it out in hopes that it will get better. You can also get help. There are teams, like ours, that help with team cohesion activities and work on developing a cohesive work environment. If this is something you want to look into, we have a page that you can check out here.

When you have a lot of workplace stress, start taking a look at the way that you handle stress at work. For example, do you avoid confrontations or your boss when something is wrong? Do you hesitate to talk to someone until you are raging angry or sobbing? Do you spend time venting or gossiping to your coworkers about how much you hate someone? Do you lash out at people?

There are much healthier ways of managing stress and conflict in the workplace. In fact, depending on your DISC style, you can learn better ways to manage conflict (because not everyone is going to be exactly the same- and it would be really boring if that were the case).

Some Simple Tricks to Help in the Meantime

You can start by getting to know each of the people. Having a relationship with someone is going to help you feel more comfortable talking with them when you have issues with them. Sometimes, you may feel pressured to say yes to something even if you don’t quite know how to do it. If you don’t understand something, you need to feel comfortable enough to ask for clarification or help.

Avoid situations where you are putting other people in the middle of something (i.e. triangulation). If you need to vent to someone, try talking to someone outside of work or the situation, such as a friend or a therapist. Be aware of time management. Try not to agree to things if you don’t logically have the time to complete them. I know this is hard, but being aware of this boundary will help you in the long run. It will definitely help your anxiety.

When you are in a conflict with someone, try using neutral language. Avoid using language that blames the other individual as this will immediately put the individual on the defensive. I usually tell people to use “I” statements. For example, I feel tense when…

Even if you have problems with someone, try to continue to maintain contact with them. I know it might be tempting to to cut someone off, but it also does not help to provide some sort of collaboration or conflict resolution. Especially, if you have to see the person on a daily basis, the knotted feeling in your stomach will not go away if you avoid people.

Try to resolve conflicts with face-to-face interactions. Stress can be further induced by miscommunications that happen through electronic means of communication. Try to focus on the facts of the event instead of emotions. The situation can be perceived in a variety of different ways, thus the range of emotions can be just as wide spread. Also, with this in mind, try to stick to the current event and not bring up past grievances as that will not add anything to the situation.

Still Need Something Extra?

I would love to pick your brain about what to do next. If you feel like I would be a good fit for you, give me a call or schedule some time for us to talk. It will give you some time to take a look at your options (even if I’m not a good fit or you aren’t a good fit for me- we can still take a look at other options available for you).

Creative Space Online Counseling and Coaching

Barbara Maulding, NCC, LCPC

224-623-2251

Illinois